Lucy Nicolaysen, BACP

Lucy Nicolaysen is a BACP counsellor based in the United Kingdom who focuses on helping people work through painful thoughts and everyday habits. She aims to build a trusting relationship where clients can talk about what is causing them distress. Sessions are a space to describe feelings and life events in depth and begin to make sense of them. With six years of experience, Lucy supports people facing relationship and family difficulties, trauma and abuse, anxiety and depression, and struggles with self-esteem and anger. She also works with issues such as grief, addictions, eating and sleeping problems, parenting strain, and compassion fatigue. ADHD, intimacy-related problems and loneliness are also within her areas of focus. Lucy draws on approaches that centre the client and their relationships. She uses attachment-based ideas to look at how early bonds shape current patterns. Cognitive behavioural techniques help to notice and change unhelpful thought habits that keep difficulties going. Her work also includes trauma-focused methods for processing painful memories and systemic thinking to consider problems in the context of family and relationships. In sessions she listens, reflects, and helps clients try small changes between meetings to test what feels different in daily life. People who come to her often want practical ways to feel less stuck, understand old patterns, and rebuild a clearer sense of purpose. To begin, clients complete a short matching questionnaire and then schedule sessions according to availability.

How her approaches translate to online therapy

Lucy often uses attachment-based work which looks at how early relationships influence current patterns. This approach helps people understand why they repeat certain habits in close relationships and what might change those habits. She also uses client‑centred practice which places the person’s experience at the heart of sessions. That means the counsellor listens carefully, reflects what is said, and supports people to find their own pace and answers. Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will discuss goals, preferences and how the methods feel in early meetings, and then agree a way forward together. This is a collaborative process where plans can be adjusted as needs change. If you are considering online sessions, please confirm the specific session options before booking since formats are not listed in the biography. Online work can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy life, reduce travel time, and allow shorter check‑ins when that suits a schedule. It can also allow sessions without being on camera or with lower bandwidth if that helps you take part more comfortably. Registered or accredited professionals and therapists commonly tailor methods such as attachment work and client‑centred listening to make them effective at a distance, helping people notice everyday thoughts and habits and try small changes between sessions.